ldcdc I like the idea of doing that and might just do that, but I think like Lesli said and I already suspect, I'm going to have to sit back and play spectator here. I think she thinks I'm being pushy, that I have an agenda, and doesn't realise that I have her best interests at heart.
If nothing else I can watch how often it goes down, see how it does and see if she's being honest when I ask how its doing. I fear that she'll try to simply save face. Ah well, this lesson will be learned.